By now, many have already failed to keep their resolutions for 2017. If you’re one of them, don’t beat yourself up too bad. There’s still plenty of time after reading this post to get on the right track. The choice to actually do so is all yours, though.
Snotty, I get it, but the truth is far from being known as sensitive. Taking my own advice, I decided to stop saying and start doing. During the last six years of my life, I’ve done some pretty great things. I graduated high school, the love of my life and I got married, we got our own place, we became parents, and we celebrated our baby’s first birthday(Omg, he’s going to be two years old soon!). After all this, I’m left to wonder what I can possibly do next to better my life even more this year and (hopefully) forever.
So, here are a few things I will (and you should) apply to my day to day experiences:
Stop Wasting Your Time
Never forget: your time is priceless. You can never get it back once it’s gone. If you’re doing something that is no longer enjoyable and/or has become something you can’t stand, it’s time to change things up. If you can’t spin the situation around and turn it back into something positive, take a step back and reevaluate if this is worth even more of your time. Sometimes letting go is the best thing you can do. If you aren’t doing what you love, you are wasting your time.
Love Your Body
You only have the one in this lifetime! It’s perfect, so you should treat it perfectly. Feed it good and healthy food, give it some water, exercise frequently, and dress it up nice when you want. Make a habit of this and you’ll realize just how fantastic your body really is, without the input of others. Always keep in mind that if you don’t take care of yourself, you can’t take care of those who mean the world to you.
Spend Time With Those Who Lift You Up
Surround yourself with people who are going to inspire and support you so you will get to where you want to be. If you love painting, join an art group. Is music your thing? Partake in the local jazz nights or choir group. Like to build robots out of recycled goods and make the duel? Super cool, and there’s definitely competitions for that. Don’t hesitate to join. No matter what, you’ll come across like minded people who started exactly where you are.
Commit to Your Goals, Damn it!
This can’t be stressed enough. Stop saying you’ll do things and actually do them! Does your goal require a few steps before you can get there? Then what the hell are you waiting for?! Get to it! Never in all of existence has there been a goal set by anyone that has just miraculously achieved itself. Want to get fit? Eat right and exercise often, no excuses. Want to read more? Pick up a book. Want to spend more time with friends and family? Give them a call and make some plans. Hold yourself accountable. If you don’t put the work and effort into it, you’re left feeling like a big ole, stinky lump of poop in the end. True story.
We’re conditioned to fear failure, which is why so many do their best to avoid the possibility of it at all cost. Here’s a secret: it’s okay to fail. You learn from it. There’s a reason the saying “practice makes perfect” exists. Failure is nothing more than an attempt. So, keep going even if you’re absolutely terrified. Keep going especially when you’re absolutely terrified. Because that is courage.
Flaunt & Embrace Uniqueness
There’s only one you in this universe. Don’t let anyone anyone shoot you down. No one can dance like you, sing like you, or blink like you. No one can tell your story the way you can. If anyone has something mean or negative to say, it’s because their jealous or scared or taught to hate and dislike anything that isn’t like them. Sadly, it results in a life filled with nothing but hate for them. For you, it never needs to.
Don’t Be Afraid to Love
Everyone has been there. You experience a bad relationship, you get into a fight with a friend or relative, your life long pet passes away. Your heart breaks in the worst way and it leads to you swearing off love in all its variety. Don’t. Mourn the loss and grow from it. Love allows you to evolve. Choosing to cut it out of your life keeps you stuck exactly where you are: sad, lonely, and miserable. Communicate better, learn to admit your wrong and/or forgive, spoil the people and furry babies in your life.
Strive to Be Compassionate
You don’t know what’s going on in other people’s live, the same way they have no idea what is going on in yours. It doesn’t hurt you in any way to hold a door open or help someone pick up the things they’ve dropped. Be a shoulder to cry on or a smile on a gloomy day. Simply learn to understand people. There is good in life and we can make it outweigh the bad. All you have to do is be the change you want to see in the world.
Don’t Hesitate to Cut Assholes Out of Your Life!
There will be people who will drag you down no matter what. Don’t wait until it is too late to kick their asses to the curb. Strive to see the good in every one, but don’t allow yourself to be leeched off of. People will see you doing well and will disguise themselves as your friends and allies, but will do everything to pull you away from your goals or will try to catch a ride on your success so they don’t have to lift a finger themselves. They will guilt you and make you feel bad about yourself and your dreams. They will want all your attention on them and what they’re doing. Put your foot down and tell them to scram! You may be filled with love and compassion, but your not a sucker and won’t be taken advantage of. Just how you can surround yourself with positive people, you can snip the negative ones out.
Those are a handful of things I plan to follow as I continue to move forward in life with my little family. Do you have life changes you want to share? Or maybe I missed something? Leave a comment and tell me what. Remember, if you want to have a positive and fruitful outcome, you have to work to get it done. As they say, “If I want it done right, I have to do it myself.” Last year was super shitty, so let’s make 2017 count for something. Happy New Year!